Warning: Venting!!!

I lived with someone once....

I guess you could call it a roommate....

It was really not fun.

If any of us were up later than this person...

We'd be woken up the next morning (early) with banging of cupboards.

If we said something that offended this person...

We could tell--but this person would not tell us what we had said/done.

Let's just call it passive aggressiveness at it's "best".

You know what I learned from that?

After trying to apologize almost for breathing wrong around this person.

Eventually I had to learn that I had done what I could--never meant to "offend" this person....

Never was trying to hurt this person...

Instead this person chose what they chose.

I tried...this person chose something else.

Thus, I learned that we choose to become offended. We choose to be "non-forgiving" (not that I'm saying this person was--it just felt like it)

And now I'm venting....if one chooses to become offended--and others do not apoligize---

Or, even if they do...it's still not their fault.

Certainly, if you know it was meant to be personal, that's one thing....

But most of the time, something taken personally is not meant personally.

And, aw, the relief it is to realize this!!!

Thank you for letting me vent!